I’m a Psychic — and Why I Stopped Doing This: When Love Isn’t Love, It’s the Fantasy You Keep Feeding.

Sinthiya S
Nov 11
2 min read

Recently, during a reading, I witnessed something I’ve seen many times before — a woman who wasn’t seeking truth, but reassurance.

She wanted the cards to confirm what her heart had already decided:

“He loves me. We’ll reunite. I just know it.”

But when I connected to Source, what I felt wasn’t love. It was frustration, resistance toward someone who no longer wanted to be held.

When I told her this, she said, “No, you’re wrong. I’m intuitive too. I feel his love.”

And I replied gently:

“There’s a difference between intuition and attachment — between truth and the ego’s need to be right.”

Because when it’s really intuition,

It brings peace.

It’s calm, quiet, grounded.

It doesn’t plead, prove, or chase.

Co-dependency is panic disguised as knowing. It’s the ego whispering, “If I just hold on a little longer, I’ll be right.”

For years, I’ve seen this pattern and, without realising it, I sometimes enabled it. I’d soften the message and say, “Trust your intuition, it will guide you,” even when I could feel the energy was off. I told myself I was being kind — that people have to “figure it out in their own time.

”But ultimately, as a reader, it was avoidance. It was fear of being the one who breaks the illusion.

Then there’s the other phrase we all love to throw around —

“You have to love yourself first.”

It’s well-intentioned, but often misunderstood. Because for many, “love yourself” translates to “go focus on your career,” “glow up,” or “become the version they’ll regret losing.”But that isn’t self-love — that’s ego disguised as empowerment. That’s “I’ll make myself worthy of love”.

So many women mistake co-dependency, fantasy, and trauma bonds for love. We tell ourselves, “It’s meant to be,” when really it’s just familiar pain.

And breaking free starts with one thing: brutal honesty.

The kind that says,